What happens to the therapist before the patient? I have done several times this question and the answer was personal as I find interesting and share the concept of "projection." I mean, try to understand the discomfort of the patient requires an effort on our part towards one direction (shift attention towards out) that often does not allow us to "stay" with our feelings, implicitly changing the position of our body, breathing, etc. .. Do not be self-centered also implies a whole series of consequences that go to determine a relationship potentially "unauthorized borrowing" that is, with objectives addressed not only therapeutic approach.
"really communicates who allows another person to explore his feelings and mature" Carl Rogers
As I said the attribution of the "feel" (including the emotions and feelings) to another is known in psychology and defined as a projection. It is a useful and dangerous process that characterizes the relationship and not just the diagnosis. It is certainly useful as part of assuming that we feel is the effect / response behavior of the other, we may have information on the possible feeling of our party, but harmful when we believe that this is always and automatically and exclusively so. environmental stimuli come to us filtered by the permanence of our history . It is common experience to find that in the same place at different times we can feel emotions / feelings differ. We should never lose possession, ownership of our feelings, cultivating a willingness to be surprised, if not contradicted by our party. say and think, "you are sad," "You are angry," "You are happy" is profoundly different than say, "I will feel sad", "
I have the feeling that you are angry," "I hear you you're happy. " In one case the other is the sole owner of the quality expressed: he is sad, angry, happy in the other case I am the owner (assuming responsibility) the quality of my feeling: I feel sadness, anger, happiness. Retain ownership of our feelings will allow us to grow in the awareness of the stimulus offered by the other could be distorted, deformed, expanded or reduced by that fund highly complex feelings, emotions that we possess and that set us apart from all others. It is the awareness of their heritage and how emotional, experiential affect your relationship with each other that we could improve, increasingly, the ability to conduct a therapeutic relationship.
"if you want to change the behavior of someone else, the best approach is to change your" J. Richardson
sources:
- "Pragmatics of human communication" P. Watzlawick, JH Beavin, DD Jackson - Astrolabe
-class notes in bioenergetics Ask Attilio Gardino.
"really communicates who allows another person to explore his feelings and mature" Carl Rogers
As I said the attribution of the "feel" (including the emotions and feelings) to another is known in psychology and defined as a projection. It is a useful and dangerous process that characterizes the relationship and not just the diagnosis. It is certainly useful as part of assuming that we feel is the effect / response behavior of the other, we may have information on the possible feeling of our party, but harmful when we believe that this is always and automatically and exclusively so. environmental stimuli come to us filtered by the permanence of our history . It is common experience to find that in the same place at different times we can feel emotions / feelings differ. We should never lose possession, ownership of our feelings, cultivating a willingness to be surprised, if not contradicted by our party. say and think, "you are sad," "You are angry," "You are happy" is profoundly different than say, "I will feel sad", "
I have the feeling that you are angry," "I hear you you're happy. " In one case the other is the sole owner of the quality expressed: he is sad, angry, happy in the other case I am the owner (assuming responsibility) the quality of my feeling: I feel sadness, anger, happiness. Retain ownership of our feelings will allow us to grow in the awareness of the stimulus offered by the other could be distorted, deformed, expanded or reduced by that fund highly complex feelings, emotions that we possess and that set us apart from all others. It is the awareness of their heritage and how emotional, experiential affect your relationship with each other that we could improve, increasingly, the ability to conduct a therapeutic relationship.
"if you want to change the behavior of someone else, the best approach is to change your" J. Richardson
sources:
- "Pragmatics of human communication" P. Watzlawick, JH Beavin, DD Jackson - Astrolabe
-class notes in bioenergetics Ask Attilio Gardino.
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